3 tips on how to keep going even when you don’t feel like it

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Some days, our goals and plans are very motivational, and we have no problem jumping in and getting to work.  You know how it is.  When your motivation to get into shape is high, it’s not so hard to pull on your running shoes and get out the door.  When you’re excited about your business, it’s easy to come up with content for your blog or call prospects on the phone.

But some days, even when you’re still philosophically on board with your plans, it’s hard to muster up the inclination to do the thing you know you must do.  Even worse are those days when you question why you’re even in it in the first place.  You have a sinking feeling that your plans will never work, or that it will always be too hard and not worth the effort.

The problem is that when we give in to those feelings, we sabotage ourselves.  Then, on the days when our motivation is high, we kick ourselves for backsliding.

Tony Robbins says, “It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.”

Often, it’s not the big decisions that causes a person to fail.  It’s the failure to make the right small decisions, repeatedly.  If you eat too much junk food today, it probably won’t have a longterm effect on your health.  In fact, if you follow a healthy food plan meticulously for just one day, you won’t see a change on the number on the bathroom scales.  So even though we know that it makes a difference, on some level, we’ve just proven to ourselves that our actions have no consequences.

Even though we know that we do.

So, on those days when we just can’t seem to slog through those small, seemingly inconsequential decisions because we just don’t have the energy or inclination, what should we do?  (After all, the article title did promise you some tips!)

  1. Do a small amount.  If you’re rationalizing yourself out of your morning run, negotiate with yourself.  Promise yourself that if you just putting on your running clothes and your running shoes, you only have to run to the end of the block.  Chances are you’ll want to keep going after you get there.  But if you don’t want to keep going, do keep your promise to yourself and run on back home.  If it’s labour-intensive work you’re avoiding, set the timer on your smartphone for 15 minutes, and promise yourself 10 minutes to surf the internet or goof off after the timer goes off.
  1. Go back to your vision. Why did you set this goal to begin with?  What will your life be like next year at this time, or five years from now, if you fail to achieve this goal?  And what will it be like if you achieve it?  For me, interviews with people who have achieved what I want to achieve are motivational.  I especially love to listen to podcast interviews.  Often, just hearing how someone went from where I am to where I want to be proves to me that it can be done, and helps me renew my resolve.
  1. Hit the reset button. Use this tip judiciously. Don’t make it a habit.  But when you find you’re ready to throw in the towel and you just can’t do it anyore, call the day a wash, and close it down.  Have a healthy supper, spend time with loved ones, and go to bed early.  Get up early tomorrow morning, drink a full glass of water, take a hot shower, and eat a power breakfast.  I promise you that your outlook will change!

Feeling discouraged and unmotivated is normal.  In fact, you should expect to feel this way sometimes.  But don’t let these feelings derail you from your purpose.

 

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5 reasons it’s financially better to be over 40 (even if you’re broke)

Ah, if only we were young again and had a chance to do it all over again, right?  Wrong!

Conventional wisdom says that the younger you are, the more time you have to build wealth and to recover from economic downturns and financial mistakes.  While this is true, there are many advantages to being older and wiser.

  1. For starters, you are wiser.  Have you made financial mistakes in the past?  Well, good.  You don’t need to make those mistakes again.  If you were twenty, you wouldn’t have those lessons under your belt, and you’d probably make those mistakes.  The trick is to learn from those mistakes so that you don’t repeat them.
  1. You probably have more time than you think. For some reason, we’ve come to think of our 40’s and 50’s as the decades in which we finalize our accumulations of wealth in preparation for retirement.  We’re supposed to be at the top of our careers.  And while this is true for many, it’s not true for many more.  If you’re committed to a healthy lifestyle, there’s no way to tell how many productive decades you have left.  (On the other hand, don’t wait too much longer to get started.)
  1. You have that credibility that comes with being “seasoned.” You’ve been there, you’ve seen it, you’ve tried it.  You have a vast array of experience to draw from.  You’ve read more books.  You’ve had more conversations.  And whether or not the previous four sentences are actually true, people will assume that they are.
  1. There are more mentors and trailblazers than there were 20 years ago. If you’re in your 40’s, this is good news.  One reason for this is simply numbers – – the Baby Boomers are in their 50’s and 60’s.  Therefore, it’s statistically more likely that someone out there has achieved what you would like to achieve.  The Baby Boomer generation is changing our perceptions about what it means to age.  Many of them have built their fortunes during the second half of their lives – – and then went on to write books or teach seminars about it.
  1. Perhaps the most significant truth on this list is that the older you are, the more you appreciate the value of time. When you were in your 20’s, if you were like most of us were, your entire life stretched out before you in what seemed to be infinity.  It seemed fine to sit in front of the television for hours, because there was always tomorrow for chasing dreams.  But today, you understand the significance of a year, or a day, or even an hour.

It’s tempting to slip into thinking about the past, regretting our mistakes and missed opportunities.  But all we can do today is choose whether or not to learn from the past.  It’s far more productive to embrace who we are today and work to ensure the future is how we want it.

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Did a pushy network marketer turn you off?

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Has anything like this ever happened to you?

It was about 20 years ago, and I was visiting acquaintances out of town.  We were at some sort of cocktail reception.  I didn’t know anyone in the room except my friends that I was visiting.

A well-made-up woman sashayed over to me and introduced herself.  It was obvious she knew my friends, so it seemed perfectly natural.

After we exchanged names and a few pleasantries, she remarked on how beautiful my eyes were.  Of course, I believed her, because I rather did think my eyes were beautiful.  I thanked her and said something flattering about her dress or shoes or something.

She then remarked on my overall beauty, and I thanked her again.  My, she was friendly!

Then she leaned towards me and said in an almost confidential voice, “Have you ever considered selling (insert name of well-known beauty company that has branded itself with a lot of pink) ?  You’d be wonderful at it!”

Ah.  Maybe my eyes weren’t so beautiful at all.  Maybe they were just attached to some new blood, fresh meat, someone from out of town, someone she hadn’t performed her pitch on yet.

I murmured a no thank you, and excused myself from the conversation.

She accosted me again later in the ladies’ room.

“I think you should at least let me tell you about it,” she said.  “You’re special – you just have that certain attractive personality.  I don’t come on to just everyone like this.  I just know that you could make a TON of money!”

Another woman came into the ladies room.

“Oh for crying out loud, Mary, leave her alone!” the woman said.  “Was she pitching her (insert name of well-known beauty company that has branded itself with a lot of pink) again?  She’s already spoken to everyone in town about it, and so whenever anyone new shows up, she has to talk to them too.”

I think I fake-laughed politely and slid out of the ladies’ room.

It’s too bad, because ten years later, when my niece became a consultant and invited me to join her, I refused to consider it.   It wasn’t because I didn’t think I could.  I was sure that if I wanted to, I would have knocked it out of the park.

It was because I could not be one of those horrible network marketing types.

Fortunately, my niece was better at it, and I didn’t have to writhe in embarrassment at social gatherings or fend her off newcomers.  And she did very well.

It was years before I opened my mind to the idea of launching a network marketing business of my own.  I realized that the problem is not network marketing itself – – the problem is that too many network marketers are doing in wrong!

I’m proud to say that since I started network marketing, I haven’t lost a single friend and I haven’t embarrassed anyone at social gatherings.  (Well, not through network marketing, anyway . . . )

Here are some reasons I’m now very excited about network marketing:

There is the potential to make a lot of money.   What turned me off in the past was the focus on money.  But I realized it’s not about the money.  It’s about all those things you could do, but you haven’t yet, because of the lack of money.  Traveling with your children.  Paying off debt.  Going on missionary trips.  Supporting a favourite charity at a transformational level.  Not putting up with a soul-sucking job for 8+ hours a day.

If you join a company you like (and why wouldn’t you?), the products can be transformative.  I’m using the products my company offers, and wow, for the first time in years, I have energy to spare, I’m losing weight, and I feel younger than I have in ages.  I’ve never used any products like these before.

It can be a “last chance” for people who haven’t saved for retirement the way they should have.  It’s an excellent business to take into retirement, because you build it up with a lot of work at the front end, and then you can maintain it by working a few hours a day, if at all.

There is a right way to do network marketing.  It doesn’t have to be icky.  You don’t have to pester everyone you know and everyone you’ll meet in the future.  You don’t have to “get” people to sign on with you.  You don’t have to talk them into it or beg them.

As of this writing, I don’t have any training guides or materials developed (and I haven’t decided if I’m going to develop them).  But if you’re curious, contact me, and I can plug you into some excellent trainers online.  And many of them give their information away for free!

If you’re still doubtful, don’t take my word for it.  Consider what the following people have to say about it:

Steven Covey:  “Network Marketing has come of age.  It’s undeniable that it has become a way to entrepreneurship and independence for millions of people.”

Bill Clinton (yes, THE Bill Clinton):  referring to network marketers “You strengthen our country and our economy not just by striving for your own success but by offering opportunity to others…”

Seth Godin:  “What works is delivering personal, relevant messages to people who care about something remarkable. Direct Sellers are in the best position to do this.”

Warren Buffet: referring to Network Marketing  “The best investment I ever made.”

Robert Kyosaki:  “…Direct Selling gives people the opportunity, with very low risk and very low financial commitment to build their own income-generating assets and acquiring great wealth.”

By the way, the above quotes have been cited in numerous network marketing materials.  However, I found them all in one place in The Four Year Career by Richard Bliss Brooke.  I highly recommend you get this book if you’re considering going into network marketing!  And by the way, that’s not an affiliate link.  It’s just a plain ol’ link.  I won’t make a dime off the sale if you buy it, and Richard Brooke has no idea that I exist.

And if any pushy network marketer approaches you and won’t leave you alone, you send them to me.

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Self employed instead of retired?

Retirement Fund BankruptDisclaimer:  I’m not a financial advisor.  I’m just a blogger with some thoughts.

The news isn’t pretty.

According to Forbes, the United States is in the middle of a retirement crisis.

“An entire generation of Americans are about to retire with little or no assets to support them. Many of them will not even have the option of continuing to work for either health or job related reasons.”  – Forbes

Here in Canada, where I’m sitting as I write this, 34% of Canadians plan to live on their lottery winnings when they retire.  But they haven’t won the lottery yet!

If you’ve saved for retirement and have no concerns, you don’t need to keep reading.  This article is for all the people I’ve encountered over the past few years who have told me that they’ll never retire, or if they do, they can’t imagine how they’ll live.  Furthermore, they say that there’s no point is starting to save now, because it’s too late to save enough to make any difference.

Many of these people know they have only themselves to blame.  It seems the world has an “Oh well, sucks to be you, shoulda saved” attitude.  Others, however, have had just really rotten luck and their finances were decimated through no fault of their own.  Yes, it really does happen.

According to the Forbes article, only three factors determine if and when you can retire:  how much you save, how long you save, and what your rate of return on your savings will be.  But then the article goes on to state that two are within your control.  The article doesn’t specify which two.  So which two would it be?  Let’s look at all three:

How much you save:  Is this in your control?  Let’s say you want to save $100,000 a year, and your annual income is $75,000?  Okay, I’ll stop exaggerating to make a point.  Let’s just acknowledge the reality that no matter how frugal you are, just remaining alive here on the planet has a price tag.  So you can only ever save the difference between your maximum earning capacity and your minimum level of expenses required to stay alive.

How long you save:  I’m 52 as I type this.  I keep encountering advice to save for 40 years.  Do I want to wait until I’m 92 to retire?  Frankly, no.  So is the number of years I save under my control?  Let’s acknowledge that our length of time to be saving is limited by the number of years we have left to earn an income.

Your rate of return:  Sure, we can shop around.  We can invest with higher risk for a greater rate of return.  But how risky do we want to be with our life’s savings?

So what IS in your control?

It’s what you do right now.

If you’re approaching the end of your incoming-earning years and you’re worried that you don’t have enough saved for retirement, you have some decisions to make.  Here are two options:

1.  Continue on your current path and hope for the best.

The problem is that “hope is not a strategy.” (I lifted that from Brian Tracy.)  Your future self will be beating yourself up even worse than you might be beating yourself up today for past decisions (or lack of them).

2.  Start learning now how to earn as much as you can for as long as you can.

If you have a well-paying job that you love, you’re in luck!  Start saving now, and save aggressively.  But whether you are or are not, I’d recommend getting your Plan B in order very quickly.

Plan B needs to be something that will generate an income for you after you retire.  Traditional savings accounts and conservative investments won’t grow quickly enough to generate a good income unless your principal is large enough to begin with.  But it’s a good idea to sock money away where you’re unlikely to touch it anyway.

You might need to engage in some out-of-the-box thinking to put together a workable Plan B.  Your tendency might be to dismiss ideas because they’re out of your comfort zone or because you don’t believe they would work.

The important point that I want to drive home with this is that you have to start working on Plan B now, not later.  Even if you don’t expect to see an income from Plan B for several years, start now, because several years later, you’ll thank yourself for it.

Here are some ideas to get you started.  They are all businesses you could start on the side and build so that when you retire, you’ll already have your branding in place, and hopefully a long list of potential clients.

Become a consultant in your field.  This one seems obvious.  However, don’t wait until after you’ve retired to start building the foundation.  It might take a few years to establish your reputation as a guru in the field, so start building your cred now so that when you retire, you can seamlessly drift into consultancy.  (Okay, it probably won’t be seamless, but why make it harder than it has to be?)   Stay tuned.  I’ll write some future articles on this.

Market another skill.   If you’ve enjoyed a hobby for years, are there income opportunities in teaching others?

Monetize around an interest or passion.  What does this mean?  This is similar to the previous suggestion to market a skill.  However, if it’s more of an interest area than a skill, create a community online through blogging or other social media, and monetize that.  If this sounds like nothing you’ve ever heard of, stay tuned, I’ll be writing future articles on this as well.  But in a nutshell, it means creating a community around an interest, and providing value to them that results in income for you.

Perform a valuable service.  This is not about what you like to do, but what you can do and what you are willing to do.  Ideas include anything from starting a dog walking business to becoming a ghost writer, performing handyperson services to babysitting, starting a garden maintenance business to furniture restoration.   Consider not just performing the service but contracting others and becoming known as the go-to for that service.  Be creative!  Look at the business this person started – it’s called Rent-A-Grandma.

Get started in network marketing.  Be sure to join a good company with a product you respect.  Yes, there are horror stories about people who lost a lot of money in network marketing, but they didn’t do it properly.  A good network marketing opportunity only requires a small initial investment and sells products that you’d buy anyway.  The reason I recommend network marketing is because many people have built businesses that provided good incomes that allowed them to retire early.  Don’t confuse network marketing with get-rich-quick scams and pyramid schemes.   If you want to learn about my company, click on the Join My Team link at the top of the page.

Become the expert on your town or geographical area.  Start now to establish your credibility as the local historian.  Establish a blog about local sites, historic events in your area, the histories of the oldest homes and other buildings in your town, and so on.  After you have a following, start charging locals and visitors for walking tours and small educational events.  Write a small book about your town or geographical area to sell on your blog and in local businesses.

Become a flea market or craft show conglomerate.  If you’ve been interested in either but worried that you wouldn’t have the time or capacity to gather up enough inventory, you can contract with others to sell theirs.  Rent tables at craft fairs or flea markets, and offer to sell other people’s crafts or flea-market-worthy items.  Establish a niche for yourself – for example, become known for specializing in mid-century dishware or funky quilted fashion items.  Expand online and sell items in your own eBay store.   Or have your own website.

The common theme for all of these ideas is that you don’t simply execute the job itself.  You leverage it for additional income opportunities.  If you start now and work diligently and consistently, you could build up a fairly decent income within five to ten years.

Of course, it’s not a guarantee.  And yes, it’s work.   You have to make a commitment to yourself and take massive action.

Or you could try the other alternative, just hoping for the best, but I don’t recommend it!

 

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It’s OK to be hungry when you’re losing weight

It's okay to be hungryI believe we’ve been misled for the past few decades.  Most diet plans, even the “sensible” ones, promise that you can lose weight without ever feeling hungry.  In fact, they go so far as to say that if you’re hungry, you’re not doing it right.   There’s even a theory out there that if you’re hungry, you’ll stop losing weight.

I believe one huge barrier to losing weight is Fear of Hunger.  I know I’ve struggled with this for years.  When I feel hungry, the planet has to stop revolving until I get some FOOD.  I’m afraid I’m going to die!  And if I let myself go without food too long, I binge on everything within plain sight.  And then I go over to the neighbours to finish off whatever they have too.

What I’ve learned this time around is that there are actually 2 types of hunger – and no, I’m not talking about you’re bored and want a snack hunger.  I’m talking about 2 bona fide, no fooling, your body is ready for food hunger.

1.  Bad hunger – this is what you experience when your diet isn’t up to par.  If you’ve eaten a lot of sugar or carbs recently, you’ll experience this.  Bad hunger is accompanied by a feeling of weakness, a low-blood-sugar kind of feeling.  You become really cranky.  You can’t focus on whatever you’re doing.  You’re zapped of all energy.  The idea of preparing something healthy sounds like so much work – you need something to eat to give you strength to get yourself something to eat.  This is a lot of people’s normal hunger.  It was mine for years.  No wonder we avoid it at all costs!

2. Good hunger – this is what you experience when you’ve been eating mostly fresh or lightly cooked vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins.  The hunger feels like a gnawing or grabbing in your belly.  But it’s intermittent.  It gets your attention, and you notice that you’re hungry.  But you’re not going to pass out or hold anyone up on the street corner to get their food.  You can finish what you’re doing.  Periodically, the hunger will well up and ask you to notice it again.  Sometimes it’s very strong.  But unless you go on without eating for hours, your energy doesn’t dip and everything else is pretty stable aside from the occasional gnawing in your stomach.

I’ve been trying to lose weight for decades, and this is the first time it’s really working for me.  What am I doing differently?  I’m allowing myself to get to that feeling of good hunger before I eat.

Awhile back, when I first started playing around with this notion, it was close to supper time, but my daughter wanted something very specific for supper.  I was already hungry, and ready to start putting the meal together.  However, as an experiment, I agreed that we should run to the grocery store to get the ingredients for what she wanted.

I went to that grocery store on an empty stomach, and I did NOT buy the entire potato chip aisle.  I didn’t buy anything other than what was required for this meal.  I wasn’t dizzy or weak or trembly, the way I expected to be.  The only symptom I experienced was that occasional stomach gnaw.  And all I had to do was live through it for about 45 seconds, and it would pass.  And then I would feel fine for about 10 minutes.

I realize that this must be how “normal” people experience hunger.

In fact, a lot of people have told me over the years that they can work through hunger, especially when they know they’re going to get to eat soon.  It’s no big deal.  They never understood why I would get trembly and weak when I got hungry (especially when it was obvious I had a good store of fat reserves to draw from).

So now I’ve come to believe that we’re supposed to be hungry, then we’re supposed to eat, and then we’re supposed to go about our business until we get hungry again.  We don’t need to stuff our stomachs with snacks every couple of hours to make sure we never experience hunger.   We can have a snack when we feel truly hungry, and then go about our business until the next time we get hungry.

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What do we want?

Healthy Wealthy WiseIt seems that a lot of people I talk to have goals that fall into one of two areas.

1.    They want to improve their health, either by losing weight, eliminating a chronic condition, managing symptoms that accompany aging, or increasing their energy levels.

2.   They want something that involves more money than they have right now.  They want to get out of debt.  Travel.  Pay for their children’s university education.  Fire their boss.

And it’s amazing how many people say “If I had only known then what I know now.”

Did you watch The Office (U.S. version) when Steve Carrell played Michael Scott, that bumbling, inappropriate but pitiable fool who somehow kept the office stumbling forward?

In one episode, he received a call from a school to call in a promise he had made 10 years ago.

He made a promise to a third-grade class that if they would graduate, he would pay for their college tuition.  Ten years later, the school invited him to visit that class, now Grade 12.  Of course, he’s in no financial position to make good on this promise.  Reluctantly, and somewhat fearfully, he visits the class on the assigned day.  He plans on coming clean right away, but he isn’t given the chance.  He’s ushered into the classroom where the teacher announces the transformational nature of that promise – – student retention was way up, and this class would have the highest percentage of graduates in the school’s history.

Then he is forscotts totsced to listen to presentations and thank-you’s from the students as they share their heartfelt personal stories of how knowing they would be going to college changed their entire academic outlook and gave them hope for the future.

And then he addresses the class and has to confess the truth:  He can’t afford to send even one of them to college.

The scene is horrible to watch.  As you might imagine, reactions include disbelief, anger, tears, betrayal, dashed hopes, and so on.

Outside the school, a student confronts him and demands to know why he made such a promise.

Sheepishly, Michael Scott admits “I thought I’d be a millionaire by now.”

This scene highlights what a pathetic, contemptible, and rather stupid person Michael Scott is.  First of all, why did he assume 10 years ago that he would be a millionaire by the time the class graduated?  Upon what did he base this prediction other than his supreme ego?  Second, what kind of person makes such a promise to hopeful young children without solid proof that this promise could be kept?

However, I think many viewers squirmed inwardly.

I will confess that when I turned 40, I was secretly disappointed.  I didn’t tell anyone this, but when I was 30, I assumed that when I was 40, I’d be much better off financially than I actually was.  Yes, I was better off than when I was 30, but I thought I’d be WAY better off.  I also thought that those pesky extra 10 pounds I carried when I was 30 would be long gone.  What a horror that they actually blossomed into a 40 extra pounds!

And my 40 year old self had only to look in the mirror to see what went wrong.  I remember wishing I could go back in time and tell my 30 year old self that ten years really wasn’t as long of a time as I thought.  I wanted to tell myself to pursue my career with more diligence.  Save money.  Stop squandering on things that really don’t bring value and joy to life.  And for God’s sake, enough with the stopping and starting those diets and exercise programs – just make small changes and keep them for life.

Now, a little older, wealthier, and wiser in my early 50’s, I’m looking forward to the next ten years.  I know they’ll pass even more swiftly than the previous ten.  The years are going to pass anyway, so I might as well use them to create the life I want to have ten years from now.

Ah, if only we knew then what we know now!  But since that’s an impossibility, the better question would be to ask ourselves what we want.  And after we’ve answered that question, we need to ask ourselves would we rather just wish for it and not have it 10 years from now, or do we want to make sure we WILL have it ten years from now?

 

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Six tips for better sleep

When you were 20 years old, you could pull an all nighter, skip your morning shower, and still show up cute for your day.

What in the heck happened?

Now it seems if we don’t get enough sleep, we look like we spent the night in a barroom.  We’re a little foggier, there are bags under our eyes, and we just don’t have as much oomph as we’d like.

Here are 7 tips for making sure you get the best sleep possible.

Be sure you’re comfy!

I know this sounds obvious.  But if your bed is uncomfortable, if your pillow is too soft or too hard, if your blankets are too heavy, if the room is too warm, etc. it’s going to interfere with your ability to fall asleep and to get back to sleep if you wake up in the middle of the night.  Sometimes people aren’t even aware that they’re uncomfortable.  They get so used to their sleeping circumstances that they just accept them as a matter of course.  I have a friend who preferred to sleep with the blanket untucked at the end of her bed, but slept for years with the blanket tucked, and making her feet feel trapped, because her grandmother had told her when she was a child that it was the “right” way to sleep.  She had forgotten that her grandmother had told her that.  It never occurred to her to pull the covers out so that her feet wouldn’t feel bound to the mattress!

Try to go to bed empty.

Avoid drinking anything for an hour or so before bed.  If you tend to get thirsty, drink more during the day, and be sure to have a good hearty visit to the bathroom right before getting into bed.

On the other hand, don’t go to bed empty.

It’s hard to sleep when you’re hungry.   Have a light snack before bed, preferably one without sugar or white carbs.

Listen to music or podcasts on your phone or iPod

This is my favourite trick.  Podcasts, especially, prevent my mind from rehashing issues from the day or fretting about tomorrow.  Some of my favourite podcasts are Useless Information, Stuff You Should Know, and History Chicks.  These podcasts are extremely interesting.  Oddly enough, boring podcasts keep me awake and annoyed.  But fascinating podcasts seem to lead me blissfully to sleep.  I always go back and start each episode where I left off when I fell asleep the night before, so that eventually, I’ll listen to a complete episode.

Try melatonin.

I know people who swear by it.  Information can be found here: Melatonin and Sleep

Go to bed at the same time each night.

How many hours of sleep do you really need each night? Be honest.  Don’t say “Six!” because you think there’s something lazy or weak about requiring eight hours each night.  If you have to get up at a certain time, count back that many hours, and pad it with an extra half hour.  Are you worried about waking up before your alarm?  Well, then you can get up a little earlier and get a few things accomplished.  Take a walk, work on the book you’ve been meaning to write, meditate, unload the dishwasher, chop vegetables, you get the idea.

Silence a loud bed partner.

Not literally.  (Although if your bed partner snores, gently talk him/her into sleep apnea screening.  I’ll do a whole ‘nother post about that another time.)

But if your partner is a snorer, consider wearing earplugs to bed.  Or listen to your iPod with earphones.

Good sleep seems to be at the core of everything.  Without it, nothing else works as well as it should.  It’s harder to eat properly because we’re more likely to crave sugar or greasy white carbs.  It’s harder to exercise because we’re tired.  It’s harder to think straight.  It’s harder to will ourselves through the things we need to accomplish during the day.

Good night!

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Adaptogens: the secret weapon against belly fat?


Red apple and yellow ripe pear and green leaves on a white background

Remember when we could drop 5 pounds in a week in order to fit into that new dress?  Okay, we were 17 years old and not really interested in healthy weight loss.  We just wanted to lookgood!

The older we get, the harder it seems to lose weight.  And it seems the older we get, the more inclined we are to store fat right in our midriff area.  Ugh!   We’re turning into apples!

To make matters worse, this is the worst kind of fat to have.  Studies show that overweight people with apple shapes as opposed to pear shapes have a higher incidence of heart disease, hypertension, high blood pressure, stroke, and a severely limited wardrobe, since clothing just doesn’t fit right.

It’s long been established that stress increases the tendency to store fat around the stomach and waist.  And as we age, we have an accumulation of stress, simply because we’ve been around longer.  If you’ve had a horrible job, endured marital woes, suffered financial insecurity, or worried about your children, all of these life challenges got that cortisol working overtime to glop extra fat around your middle.

I’m definitely an apple instead of a pear.  And the older I’ve gotten, the more worried I was about my health and the implications of all this fat around my midriff.  I’ve tried all kinds of diets, and I’ve tried all kinds of non-diets where you just eat more sensibly and exercise more, and nothing has seemed to work.

In frustration, I began to research the heck out of belly fat.  There seem to be a lot of conflicting opinions about what to do about it, and there are even more books, websites, and programs that promise that they have the only secret to banishing belly fat.

However, some things do look promising.  Adaptogens, for example, help the body deal with stress.  Now, I’m no scientist, but it seems to me that if the body can deal with stress, it must be easier to lose the weight, especially around the middle.  So I began taking in foods and supplements that contain adaptogens.   And finally, finally, oh praise be to God, the weight has begun to creep off.

“What are adaptogens, Chandra???” you might be demanding right now.  Adaptogens are a specific group of herbs that help the body manage stress.  They’re called adaptogens because they actually have the ability to adapt their function to the body’s needs.  They also support adrenal function and help the cells eliminate toxins.

“I thought you said you weren’t a scientist, Chandra!”  It’s true.  I’m not.  I googled it and found a lot of corroborating information from a variety of sources.  You can google it too!

I’ve been digging clothes out of the nether regions of my closet, clothes that haven’t fit me for a few years.  It feels good.  

I don’t think I can get into the cute little dress I wore when I was 17 though!

 

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What is age, anyway?



bigstock_Portrait_Of_Romantic_Old_Coupl_3611108When I was younger (much younger!), I felt sorry for people in their 40s, 50s, and 60s.  At that age, what’s the point of trying anymore, right?

I remember reading an article in one of my mother’s magazines about a woman in 40s who had been obese all her life, but miraculously managed to lose all the weight she wanted to.  She was so happy that she joined a tap dancing class (her life’s dream) and bought all new clothes.

I was 15 or 16 at the time.  I remember thinking that it was kind of sad how she was running around doing all these things as a skinny person, when at her age she might as well have continued to overeat and enjoy herself.  After all, what does it matter what clothes a woman wears in her 40s, right? She’s old, for crying out loud.  And as for tap dancing classes?  I almost writhed in embarrassment on her behalf.  How ridiculous was that at her age?

Yes, I should have been slapped.

But how many of us, consciously or otherwise, carry around with us the identity of what we used to think our age meant?  For example, if you’re 60 today, do you have in the back of your mind the thought of what being 60 years old meant to you when you were 15?

Also, how many of us have it in our heads that our income-earning lives end at 65?   After that, we either drift into retirement bliss, or if we haven’t prepared for retirement, we’ll spend the rest of our years scrabbling around in poverty.

Why must we think this way?

Many people are remaining strong and vital well into their 80’s, and even into their 90’s.  Just a few weeks ago, I had lunch with a businessman in his 80’s.  He had just returned from a golfing trip in Scotland.  He’s just as busy planning and running his business as if he were a much younger man.

If you fall into the trap of thinking that there isn’t much left, so why bother, consider this.  Let’s say you’re 21 years old, just starting out.  How far along could you be by the time you’re 30?  Not how far would be you along, but how far could you possible get?  Could you build a fortune?  Buy a dream house?  Write a book?  Find true love?  Get into the best physical shape of your life?

Has anyone else started out at the age of 21 and accomplished big things by the time they were 30?  Granted, not everyone has.  But some have.  Therefore, it’s possible.

How old will you be in 9 years?  Do you plan on still being alive?  You’re going to age these 9 years anyway, so why not keep pushing forward on your dreams?  Just decide that you’re 21.

Okay, I know you don’t have the energy of a 21-year-old.  But can you do anything to increase your energy level so that at least you’re closer?  And you might be in pain or have other health limitations.  Can you proceed anyway?  After all, those 9 years are going to pass anyway.  At the end of the 9 years, do you want to have achieved what you’ve always wanted to, or do you want to be in the same place you are now, only 9 years older?

Don’t accept any other definition of what it means to be your age except for the definition you choose.  I’m so grateful I have the good sense to tell my 15-year-old self to shut up and behave, because obviously, she has poor judgement.  Don’t let the you of the past decide what it means to be your age.  Don’t let society decide, either.  Don’t let your spouse decide, or the media, or the health professionals.  You decide.

 

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